Showing posts with label toddler. Show all posts
Showing posts with label toddler. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

How Much Sleep Do Toddlers Really Need?


Just as I got used to accomplishing things while my little one naps, she has decided to skip her morning naps and opt for one nap days. Here are some great tips on transitioning from multiple naps, and how to deal when the naps disappear altogether.
 
Dropping the morning nap. Most babies eventually settle into a two-nap-a-day routine one in the morning and another in the afternoon — until around 16 to 18 months. Once they're toddlers, they start to skip the morning nap. You'll notice the signs when your child remains revved up around nap time or starts to spend all the time playing in his crib. Sometimes, he'll be very vocal about it: "I'm not tired!" Whatever the signs, don't expect the transition from two naps to one to be smooth sailing. For the first few weeks, your child may grow cranky and fussy as he struggles to stay awake for more than six straight hours. He might doze off midway between what used to be his morning nap and his afternoon nap or even revert to his old morning-and-afternoon nap schedule.

At the beginning of this switch-over, keep an eye out for telltale signs of drowsiness — eye-rubbing, yawning, and that lovely Mr. Hyde personality change that comes with hair-triggered tantrums and tears. Shift lunch a bit earlier to accommodate an earlier afternoon nap if necessary. If he nods off before lunch, don't worry; you can always feed him after he wakes up. Just know that the single nap he's getting will likely be longer than his usual afternoon snooze — close to two hours or more.

Know too that with just one restorative siesta, he may easily get frustrated and cranky toward dinnertime. Again, keep an eye on him and adjust his schedule accordingly to ensure that he's getting enough sleep. Maybe feed him dinner a little earlier in order to get him to bed earlier. If you've allowed your sleepy child to nap later than usual, however, don't expect him to be ready for sleep at his regular bedtime. If there's typically, say, four hours between nap and bedtime, adjust his schedule accordingly to minimize protests.
 
Dropping the afternoon nap. Ah, you knew the day would come when that last nap disappeared. When it actually happens depends on the child (whether they're ready or not) —  some kids nap till they're five, while others quit around two or three. So there's a wide range of normal. Again, the transition from one nap to no naps can be shaky at first.  Instead of going cold turkey, your toddler may nap three days out of seven, and then two or one. For those days when napping is not in the cards, try to institute a half hour of "quiet time" when your child can lie or sit or play quietly and refuel for all the fun things you have planned for the afternoon. Most kids won't mind hanging out by themselves to do whatever they please, and more often than not they wind up falling asleep.

You should also consider moving up his bedtime on nap-free days. As with the two-to-one transition, he's still learning to make do on less energy, and it's not always pretty. He may get sloppy and cranky in the evening, so make sure you help him ease into bedtime before he becomes overtired. And make sure he's getting at least 11 hours of sleep each night. If he used to go to sleep at 8:00 p.m., wake up at 6:00 a.m., and get a one-hour nap, push his bedtime an hour or so earlier to make up the difference.

Not all kids are created equal, however. If your child is not getting the textbook-recommended sleep allotment, but he seems happy, healthy, and well rested, he's probably fine. If you have any questions at all about his sleep needs, check with your pediatrician.



Friday, November 7, 2014

Potty Training: What to Avoid



Being a first time mother, I’m always wondering if I’m doing things right. It doesn't help that I’m also worried if my toddler is on track as far as developmental stages when others are telling me “well my child did this at this age”. So here are a few things to avoid when thinking about potty training I found helpful. 

Starting too soon
Starting potty training before your toddler is ready will only make it more difficult and prolong the process. There's no magic time when it's right to begin. Most toddlers have the necessary physical and mental skills between 18 and 24 months, while some aren't ready until they're closer to age 3 or even 4. Keep an eye out for physical, cognitive, and behavioural signs that your toddler is set to give it a try. It may take up to three months or even longer to potty-train your child, and it's important to be patient and supportive throughout. If you've been trying for several weeks without success, your toddler may not be ready — wait a few more weeks and try again.

Starting at the wrong time
 It's not a good idea to begin training a week before the new baby is due, when you're changing caregivers, or during any other disruptive time in your child's life. Toddlers are creatures of routine, and any changes to the usual program are likely to cause setbacks. So wait until things have settled down before you start. 

Putting on the pressure 
If your toddler has started to show an interest in potty training, that's great. But don't push her to get through it faster than she can handle. If she gets nervous, she could start holding in her stool, which can lead to constipation and other problems. Let her take her time and get used to this new, multi-part process step by step. She'll move from one stage to the next at her own speed.

Following someone else's timetable
It will get harder with each week, but no matter how many times you hear your parents, your in-laws, or someone else from an earlier generation tell you that you should hurry up and start training, let it roll off your back. Potty training methods change from one generation to the next, and what was standard practice when you were a child may no longer be the norm. These days it's typical to wait for signals your child is ready rather than impose a schedule of your own. And research suggests children can't voluntarily control the muscles for their bladder and rectum until they're at least 18 months old. 

Punishing your child
It won't accomplish a thing to get angry or penalize your toddler if she's not interested in training, won't sit on the potty, has an accident, or has any of the other common problems kids have while potty training. Setbacks are natural, and scolding will only make her less interested in training — she'll be afraid any mistakes will upset you. If you can, respond to messes and other challenges calmly — and if you can't, bite your tongue and count to ten, then try again.